We also need to be able to validate, support, and help ourselves.
With this in mind, I’ve come up with a few ideas to create a little more balance in my support system, making myself a more central part of it.
Some of my most effective mood-boosters included: These are all perfectly valid approaches to feeling better, but they all hinge on praise and external support.
Getting help from others is only one part of the equation.
Note down the things you’ve done well, the choices you’ve made that you’re proud of, the progress you’ve made, and even the things that required no action at all—for example, the time you gave yourself to simply be.
When you regularly praise yourself, self-validation becomes a habit you can depend on when you need it the most.
Hay We all have techniques we depend on to lift our spirits when we’re feeling down about ourselves or our lives.
A while back I realized something about the ones I’d found most effective when struggling to forgive or accept myself: Many of them involved seeking validation from other people.
If you’re also looking to increase your capacity for self-soothing so you can depend less on validation from others, you may find these ideas helpful: Of course, this assumes you already keep a gratitude journal to recognize and celebrate all the good things in your day.
If you don’t, you can still take a few minutes every day to give yourself some credit.
“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked.
Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” ~Louise L.