Dating success for women
The sexiest music video this summer was Rihanna violently humiliating a couple who owed her money.
And yet, last week, when Drake wanted to attack Meek Mill, the most stinging insult he (or his ghostwriters) could come up with amounted to “your girlfriend is more successful than you are, which means you are an emasculated wimp.” And this is Drake, the man who writes odes to women who make him proud.“She wasn’t that hot, physically,” one man recalled of a higher-ranking woman he once worked with, “but something about the way she talked and acted, and how confident she was, just made her hot.” One day, he and another man were discussing how sexy this woman was, just as she walked up from behind them and brushed by.She gave no sign of whether she’d overheard them — but the notion that she might have known how hot they thought she was and ignored them anyway only made her seem hotter.I have an ongoing debate with several of my friends about whether men are actually intimidated by successful, assertive women.For a long time, I believed this type of intimidation was, at best, a romantic-comedy myth invented to make flawless type-A women seem like victims. Lo in The Wedding Planner.) Or maybe it was a self-fulfilling prophecy, like how I never feel bad about my beach body until I am instructed to think about my beach body.
No men were willing to admit to avoiding powerful women in their love lives.